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Who Do You Turn to For the Best Advice?
You need to be weary of family friends as you don't know whose side they are on. They may tell wyou one thing while telling your wife something completely different. The best place to turn for some immediate support is life-long friends who have been with you since before you got married. They are more likely to stick with you through out the divorce, and will be there to help pick up the pieces after everything has finished.
You can talk to your family about what is happening. But again I would be weary as to the advice that they give you. Families tend to stir up a lot of resentment towards your wife, you know there is always the obligatory "We never liked her to begin with". They could easily get your emotions all mixed up, adding too much fuel to the fire, and then you could easily end up with a long drawn out divorce battle where you are stuck fighting for the dining room set because your family doesn't want her to get a single thing. This is not the kind of constructive advice that you need at this time. They have every right to be angry as well as you, but it's important that you don't let them cloud your judgment.
Overall, the best advice comes from uninvolved parties where raw emotion doesn't get in the way. Divorce attorneys may be a place to start, but I have found that they have a tendency to tell you what you want to hear. After all, they are trying to get you business. So they would always rather start with the good news and then tell you the bad news after you have paid your retainer.
The best thing to do at the beginning is research. And with the internet, research is getting easier and easier everyday. You need to do your research on everything that you possibly can pertaining to your divorce. You need to research possible attorneys! You need to find out hat your rights are! You need to grab the bull by the horns and get something done! The more that you educate yourself the easier the whole process will be. A divorce is a terrible thing to go through, but it doesn't have to ruin your life. You just have to decide that you are not going to let that happen to you and do something about it!
You can talk to your family about what is happening. But again I would be weary as to the advice that they give you. Families tend to stir up a lot of resentment towards your wife, you know there is always the obligatory "We never liked her to begin with". They could easily get your emotions all mixed up, adding too much fuel to the fire, and then you could easily end up with a long drawn out divorce battle where you are stuck fighting for the dining room set because your family doesn't want her to get a single thing. This is not the kind of constructive advice that you need at this time. They have every right to be angry as well as you, but it's important that you don't let them cloud your judgment.
Overall, the best advice comes from uninvolved parties where raw emotion doesn't get in the way. Divorce attorneys may be a place to start, but I have found that they have a tendency to tell you what you want to hear. After all, they are trying to get you business. So they would always rather start with the good news and then tell you the bad news after you have paid your retainer.
The best thing to do at the beginning is research. And with the internet, research is getting easier and easier everyday. You need to do your research on everything that you possibly can pertaining to your divorce. You need to research possible attorneys! You need to find out hat your rights are! You need to grab the bull by the horns and get something done! The more that you educate yourself the easier the whole process will be. A divorce is a terrible thing to go through, but it doesn't have to ruin your life. You just have to decide that you are not going to let that happen to you and do something about it!
Who Can You Trust?!? This is probably one of the first questions that you will have to answer when you determine that a divorce is inevitable. The person that you have trusted the most with all your feelings and thoughts,your wife, is now the one person who you cannot confide in at all. You need to get help/advice as soon as possible, but you have to know where to turn.
It may be hard to find trust in anyone. Especially, if your wife has made the first move and filed for divorce without you knowing a thing. This is more common than you think. As it turns out. the woman is twice as likely to file for divorce than the man. Many times the man doesn't even realize that it was coming to this. So when your wife tells you that she wants a divorce and that she already has an attorney, you get this feeling of getting the wind knocked out of you. It can then be followed by a rush of panic as your wife has gotten all her ducks in a row and you don't even know who to talk to about it.
It may be hard to find trust in anyone. Especially, if your wife has made the first move and filed for divorce without you knowing a thing. This is more common than you think. As it turns out. the woman is twice as likely to file for divorce than the man. Many times the man doesn't even realize that it was coming to this. So when your wife tells you that she wants a divorce and that she already has an attorney, you get this feeling of getting the wind knocked out of you. It can then be followed by a rush of panic as your wife has gotten all her ducks in a row and you don't even know who to talk to about it.
